19 September 2009

It's Not You, It's Me

Dear (DNF) Book,

We need to talk. I know I picked you up, murmured sweet nothings in your ear about the one-on-one time we would spend together...but I'm sorry I have to walk away...and this is the end of the road for us. I know I led you on, promised you the world, but...this just isn't working out and, while I know this is going to sound trite, it's not you, it's me.

I love your sense of style, your dash, your verve, but you're no good for me...and I'm no good for you. It may be that this is just not the right time for us to be...together; I'm not ready for you yet. I need to work on me...and you, you deserve someone better than that.

I know you will find that elusive connection with someone...but that someone isn't me. I hope you can forgive me for leading you on. If it makes you feel any better, I feel very guilty.


So, how do you explain the reason behind your break-up to your DNF books?


  1. I am cold when it comes to a DNF. It is like a one night stand that went bad. I place it in the DNF pile to give away and never give it another thought.

    Heh, I am cruel.

  2. It depends on my reaction to the book/writing/voice/story.

    Most often, if I feel blah about a book, I'll put it down for the time being--I know that I'm not in the mood for that book/voice/story/writing/author/time period/trope/you-name-it, but that the chances are good I'll enjoy it at another time, when I'm in a different reading mood.

    Now, if I have a strong negative reaction... I'll simply put it aside in a (very small, actually) pile of books to give away.

    (((orannia))) I know how difficult that was for you, m'dear. *hug*

  3. I find it helps me to write the DNF up because that forces me to think about exactly what it is that annoyed me enough to drop it. I don't always post these, but they help me tremendously.


  4. "So, how do you explain the reason behind your break-up to your DNF books?"

    "The client is always right." Well, it works for me. ;)

  5. I'm cold-hearted. I tell the book it's crap and then I kick it into the trash.

    I suddenly feel like I'm going to be psychoanalyzed about my relationships based on that answer. :D

  6. It is like a one night stand that went bad.

    LOL KB! Classic call!

    (((azteclady))) I love your explanation!

    That's a really good idea Bookwormom! I kind of did something similar with Lover Avenged (although I did finish it :) I just needed to rant *grin*

    Kris - I like!

    heidenkind - no psychoanalysis here :)

  7. I don't usually have any DNFs. Sometimes I put one down for awhile because I either get bored with it or distracted by something else (not necessarily another book... just life), but I do try to finish books I start reading. Sometimes I decide I don't want to go back to reading the book at all... but that takes a long time to accept that. Then I give it away as soon as possible. LOL

  8. While I'm waiting with bated breath to find out if you dnf'd Havemercy,

    I totally know where you're coming from. I've had books that others have raved about, I can tell are well written, but just don't suit my mood at the moment. Those go back on the tbr shelf. (I've had Jeri Smith-Ready's Eye's of Crow on my shelf for a while for that very reason.)

    However, if it's not doing it for me because of (imo) bad writing or some (imo) objectionable element in the story, then I'm pretty heartless about it.

    There are a number of books, though, that I find I really want to like, but for one reason or another just can't. That really bums me out.

  9. I'm very impressed Christine. I never used to have DNF books, but this year they seem to be creeping up...most worrying, although I think for most of them it's me *grin*

    Renne - take a deep breath. Am almost halfway through HaveMercy and enjoying it. It's not as good as The Doctrine of Labyrinths, but it's rather good!

    There are a number of books, though, that I find I really want to like, but for one reason or another just can't. That really bums me out.

    Oh, I so know what you mean! It's so depressing when that happens! And I keep trying to work out why except that (in my more rational moments :) I realise that things happen...

  10. It's NEVER me. It's always THEM. What's that? Common denominator? Yeah, I admit, that's me. So what?

    In all seriousness (that was big'ole haha above), it just depends on the book. Sometimes they really do seem like they're the worst-written stuff I've ever sen and other times the book is just so well done...but it's not for me. The first is easier to deal with. Toss it against a wall or never pick it p again. Meh. The latter is harder because those are the ones where I wonder what's wrong with me. A good example was Warbreaker by Brandon Sanderson. Beautifully written. Pretty good characters. Absolute snore-fest for me.

  11. I tend to put the DNFs aside and go back to them eventually. Sometimes its mood and other times its the subject or style. If after a few more tries and it still doesn't work for me then its to sell pile and I try not to think of them.